I know it's been a while since I've posted a blog for you guys, but this one talks about something that I've been called to post before any others, and when the Universe calls to me right now, I have to listen. So here's to hoping you'll give me a few minutes of your time, and have a quick read with me, and maybe a share, it would mean the world to me.
See, if you follow me on social media, you'd probably know that about a week and a half ago I was really inspired to start sharing my story again, to see if there was anyway I could use it to give back, to inspire, to help, in whatever way I could. I seriously just felt this calling, like it was time, but honestly, I didn't even know where to start, or how to go about reaching out to the right people and places.
I've been back burnering the HOW and WHY of my life as a writer, and now I feel like the universe is telling me it's time to bring it to the front again.
So, feeling inspired, I wrote out some notes, and hopped on a FACEBOOK LIVE video, and poured my heart out, something I had not done in a long time, just knowing that the universe was asking me to do this, for whatever reason.
The very next day, I was contacted by someone in the YWCA organization here, to speak with them about my story and see if there was anyway that I could be a help to them. That spoke to my soul in ways I can't even describe to you. And I know it isn't supposed to end there.
In the week that's followed up until now, I keep seeing posts and topics about social media influences taking their LIVE videos and rewording them into blogs, and I honestly don't think there is a better video for me to start turning into a blog than that same video I posted about wanting to share my story, to help and inspire.
So, with that introduction, here is the written version of my video, at least the important parts that really matter. I hope this inspires someone, to reach out, to me, to an organization that can help, to a friend, to anyone that will listen. I hope this reaches someone who realizes that I would love to help, in anyway that I can. This is me, answering the universe. Read On:
Thank you everyone for joining me. I would love to chat with you today about honesty on social media, and inspiring people, and your story, and what honesty can really do.
A big thing with social media, and we all know this, and some of us are guilty of this, is that mask that a lot of us wear, or that a lot of us put out there. That highlight reel. And I don't say that in a negative way, because a lot of people don't even do it purposely, or to be harmful to others, but a lot of people love to show the highlights of their life, and not the negativity.
So then for people who are struggling, or who are going through something hard, that can be discouraging because we compare our lives to others and to their highlight reel and we may feel then like our story is too negative, or that our life is in a downwards spiral in comparison, or that we don't have anything to contribute. We can start to feel like our story isn't happy and nobody wants to hear it.
*On a side note, there is a big difference between being negative and complaining about every day situations, and then having big struggles, and failures, and set backs, and hardships.
But there are so many of us who have been through some shit, been through the muck, and we are struggling and we see all this and we don't feel like we should share our life, because it doesn't match up to the highlight reel, and it's not "happy."
And that is something that I fell into over the last six months, or even more, I'll be honest. I have really wanted to share all of these amazing things that are happening in my life because they are really amazing. My books, the kids, business... And it's not like there isn't struggles and negativity, but I just got to this point in my life where I wanted to put all the shit, all the bad crap that I had been through, all of the muck that I am struggling with, I just wanted to put it behind me.
I still shared what I had been through, but just those little tidbits, like, I've struggled, I've been depressed, I've been homeless, I got through it, and then I would move on. And I really felt like I was better off putting my focus on promoting the "chasing your dreams." I figured I could inspire people that way. Focus on my books, be a best selling author, and that would be it.
But deep down in my heart of hearts, and in my soul, my why has always been helping people. Right down to the very basic's of my first jobs like cleaning people's houses and delivering them food and bagging their groceries, to direct sales and health and wellness and sexual education. I just want to help.
But I am realizing that those things that I back burnered are my life, and so important to who I am. I was homeless, I was broken, I was sick, I was depressed, all of what I am going through, and growing through, is important. This isn't just about chasing dreams.
Chasing dreams is great, but what about all of that crap that got me to that point where I was ready to chase them?
In the beginning, it can feel totally humiliating, and shameful, opening up like that, letting people know that you were totally broken, starting over with nothing, and for me, all of that was public, so afterwards, I just pushed it behind me.
But talking about all of this is important. After I was settled again I did do some inspirational speaking, talking about being homeless and leaving toxic relationships. And I know that deep down in my soul, I need to start doing that again.
I am still healing, and I am realizing that you do not heal over night. And sometimes it may seem like that, to that social media highlight reel, that we need to focus and share only the good, so that we can fit in. But I still have bad days, I still struggle, I am still hurting, and sometimes we need to help others, because that helps ourselves. Fixing others fixes ourselves. Our vulnerability shows strength. If I can show you that I am open enough to let you in to see my hurt and my struggle, you can let me in, you can let others in, and we can heal together.
So the point of this video was that I believe the universe is asking me to shift my focus a little bit, and to talk about the things that I have been through, and struggling through, and still growing through. I want to help people and inspire people outside of just writing erotica and dirty books. Am I still writing? Absolutely. But the universe will make room for everything that I'm putting on my plate right now. It's time to get back out there, and give back.
I don't even know where to start, or what I'm going to be doing yet, I just know that this is what I need to do. I need to mix my novels in with my story. You know. Why did I start writing novels? Because I was homeless and depressed and broke and had already lost everything else.
Because if there is one person out there whose lost in their business, lost in their relationship, lost in their life, if I can inspire them to make the change, even if it means you'll be homeless, or broke, or starting over with nothing... sometimes there is a reason for that. Sometimes that rock bottom is the foundation of some incredible rock solid mountains.
So there you have it. That's the rough transcript of the randomly inspired facebook video I did the other day, and if you want to see the video in it's entirety, feel free to follow me on facebook (and all my social media sites) and watch all my lives! And like I said, the day after I chatted everyone's ear off, I was contacted by someone in an agency that maybe I can help with. If this blog reaches one more person I can help, then my soul is happy.
Thank you for reading everyone, and please share if you know someone this may help.
Much love, Lady Mack xoxo
Author Carissa McIntyre