Scheduling Fun - Not The Kinky Kind, But Maybe
Do you schedule in your fun time? And no, kinky readers, not that kind of fun time, but honestly, in the bigger picture of what I am want to write about here today, it fits, so keep reading.
As I am SLOWLY getting better at keeping a schedule and organizing my time, to keep my kids sane and myself from slipping into a funk again, (and, on that same note, thinking back to pre-covid times, when I was scheduling my life a lot more), I know the significance of scheduling in times to eat, time to shower, to exercise, meditate or do yoga, to spend time with my family with no phone, to spend time with myself with no phone, etc.
And it seemed funny when I first started doing that, but as a busy self employed momma of 3, I know my other busy and highly active friends will agree that those things are usually the first to go when we get busy with LIFE, and therefore, are SO IMPORTANT to put into your schedule to make sure they still get done.
Taking care of you matters!!
But I will admit, my schedule became pretty much non-existent for a while, during these 2 weeks of staying at home, that turned into a year and a half, while I also had injured children, a broken leg, lost a loved one, had a serious eye injury, while my kids fell apart and my mental health became scary, and my kids were supposed to still go to school 7 hours a day online and get good grades while I tried to work a few hours a day on my own business so I could keep a roof over our heads and also make dinner and arrange grocery delivery and clean and well… I could go on, but it got really bad.
And I’m not going to lie to you right now and tell you anything has drastically changed or that it got better, haha, I mean, we are still in lock down and can’t buy underwear after all, but I am dealing better.
And realizing that I need my schedule and I REALLY need to stick with taking care of me and making sure I am focused on what actually matters right now is only ONE big realization I’ve had recently.
I haven’t even thought of scheduling in anything FUN.
Now, to be honest, I never really used to in that sense, but, back when life was normal, I had a buys life that I had to schedule. I was invited to events and held events that took up my weekends and filled them with excitement. I regularly saw my friends, and made time for the things that mattered to me, I went for coffee and went to the movies and went out for dinner, I felt like reading (and not at 2am when I can’t sleep) or watching my favorite movies and shows, I wasn’t so screened out that I cringed at the thought of having another video call with people or even had the mental capacity to hold a conversation because I wasn’t fucking exhausted. I even went on dates and had a reason to get dolled up for work and events and network face to face.
These days, I am mostly in my house 24/7, except for groceries, being in the yard, hiking in the woods and the rare occasion I can get help from family so that I can have 5 minutes to myself. I tend to spend that magical 5 minutes of time sleeping, crying, or hauling out to the water somewhere. I usually have to be 9 people in one day, working 17 hours that consume 35 hours in a 24 hour period. I don’t have family that live here, I am a solo parent, so I struggle and feel like I am drowning. And I don’t do those things.
But I am tired of there not being a middle ground. Just for a tiny moment in time, I want to feel ok. I want to feel normal. Happy. Care-free. Doing something I love. Just for me. And I want to do it guilt-free.
So I am going to start scheduling in fun time. Obviously within reason, but I am. And yeah, something else may have to be sacrificed, because that’s how I live my life these days, but I think it’s time that’s done. It’s needed. In the last 15 months I have sacrificed so much. We all have. Let something else be the sacrifice right now and put yourself first, do something fun, do something you love, just for you.
Don’t let what you sacrifice be what makes you happy. Please.
And yes, now that you see where I was going with all of this, you kinky friends can go right ahead and schedule in sex as fun time. I would, if I wasn’t going on 4 years single, haha. Instead, I’m going to focus on gardening, baking with my children, making happy memories, reading my favorite books, watching my favorite movies, hiking my favorite places, playing my favorite video games, talking to my favorite people, and loving myself. Little by little, my mental health is improving. Moment by moment, I am finding more peace, more happiness, more love. Day by day, I am taking better care of myself and finding my passion again. My hope is that you can find one little thing to schedule in that makes you smile. You deserve it.
Sending you peace, love, and fun!
Author Carissa McIntyre,
Lady Mack Xo
